In our ostensibly open-minded times, virginity still seems to be something that many men are ashamed of. Some think that women will smell their virginity, while others believe that they’re incapable of having good sex because they’re a virgin.
But these views are flawed. Virgins really don’t need to rely on porn to feel confident, and they shouldn’t compare their sexual experiences to the unrealistic standards of pornography.
1. Be yourself
There’s a lot of pressure for virgins to lose their virginity, especially in adolescence. Girls often feel like they have to lose their virginity before college or by a certain age, while guys face the stigma of not losing their virginity at all. This can lead to a lot of stress and anxiety around sex.
But virgins don’t have to give into these pressures. Instead, they can be comfortable with their status as virgins and enjoy the benefits that come with it.
Another way to feel more confident as a virgin is by talking to friends who have lost their virginity. They can help you understand what to expect from sex and how to handle yourself in the bedroom.
It’s also important to remember that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to sex. For example, some people might find masturbation more intimate than others. So, don’t be afraid to explore different sex styles and see what turns you on. You may be surprised by how much you enjoy it. Moreover, you shouldn’t be ashamed to share your sexual interests with a partner.
2. Be open minded
Virgins often have a stigma about their sexuality. They may think that they’re missing out on life because they don’t have a full sexual history, or that they’re somehow inferior as a result. Whether or not that’s true, it’s important for virgins to realize that their inexperience doesn’t define them as a person.
A lot of people become virgins because they’re pressured by their peers to lose their virginity by a certain age or because they don’t want to “go with the flow.” The truth is, losing your virginity at any point in your life is completely normal.
If you’re a virgin, watching porn can be helpful for learning about what to expect during your first time. But it’s also important to talk to a trusted friend who has experience. They can help you understand what to expect physically, as well as emotionally. This will make you less apprehensive about your first time. You’ll know what to expect, and you’ll be able to communicate with your partner more effectively about what feels good for both of you.
3. Be honest
Even in these ostensibly open-minded times, virginity can be a taboo. Many people still feel the need to be jerks when they learn someone has never had sex. This can make you feel ashamed or embarrassed about yourself, which is not healthy for anyone.
It’s important to be honest with your potential partners about your sexual preferences, and how you want to explore yourself in a relationship. The more open and honest you are, the more likely your partner will be to be the same.
Porn can be a good source of information about different positions and ways to have sex, but it is important to recognise that it doesn’t necessarily reflect real-world sex. For example, choking and facial ejaculation (“cum shots”) don’t happen in most adult relationships.
Be aware of the way you are being treated, and stand up for yourself if you are being hurt by inappropriate jokes or sexual pushiness. Don’t let other people’s shit-talk define you, and don’t allow it to keep you from being confident and happy! Don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself, too. Most women love a guy who can take himself lightly.
4. Don’t take yourself too seriously
Many virgins get hung up on the fact that they aren’t yet experienced in sex. This can cause them to take themselves too seriously and have unrealistic expectations when it comes time for their first time. This can lead to a lot of awkward fumbling and disappointment. To avoid this, virgins should spend some time learning about sex by reading articles and watching porn. This will give them a better idea of what to expect and make the experience more pleasurable for both parties.
It’s also important for virgins to remember that porn is not real. It’s a work of fiction that is made for a specific audience. As long as they keep this in mind, they can enjoy porn without getting too hung up on it.
Finally, virgins should try to relax as much as possible. Nothing will make sex more painful for either party than being too tense. It’s also important for virgins to be aware that the act of losing their virginity is a physical process and should be taken seriously.
5. Don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself
It’s important for virgins to be able to laugh at themselves, especially in situations where they make mistakes. Whether it’s an embarrassing story about losing your virginity, or simply making a stupid mistake that doesn’t actually matter in the grand scheme of things.
This helps them feel more confident and can also give them the confidence they need to move on from their virginity issue. It’s also important for virgins to be able to identify and confront negative attitudes about virginity in society, such as stigma and shame.
Another way that porn can help virgins be more confident is by teaching them what to expect when they have sex in real life. This can help them avoid embarrassing situations and ensure that sex is as enjoyable as possible for both parties. This can be particularly helpful for virgins who are dating, as it can prevent them from getting into uncomfortable situations that might ruin their first time. However, it is still recommended that virgins take care to choose partners who are genuinely compatible with them and who understand their sexuality.